For anyone waiting for this update, my apologies for posting late. I had promised that I would have this uploaded by Saturday, but my back has been out and with the Christmas season upon us, my mind has been going in a million directions. We finally have the tree up and the house decorated. Bring on Santa. I’m so excited to spend our first Christmas together. This year has had so many firsts, and many more to come.
Where to start? It has been a few months since my last Tinder Lovin update and so much has happened between then and now. We have been together now for 8.5 months, but it seems like I have known this man for years. We spend every single weekend together and sneak as many days in during the work week as possible. It’s tougher on weekdays, as we are both people that know the value of sleep, and try to be in bed by 9pm on nights we have to work the next day. By the time Wojtek drives out after work from Langley, and we have dinner, it is almost time for bed. We had discussed moving in together and had planned to for September, but decided that having his place to escape to now and then, was worth spending money for both places. We never wanted the decision to move in together to be made because of financial reasons. We both know that this next step is a big one and there is more to consider than just ourselves. My kids (young adults 16 and 17) play a big role in this decision. One of the reasons I love this man so much, is that he completely understands that my first priority always is being a mom. Never a day goes by that he doesn’t ask about how the kids are doing, and remembers important dates of their events, and pro-d days, etc. He really listens, whether it is something they bring up at dinnertime or just a quick comment they make in passing. He always remembers what is going on in their lives. My daughter adores him. Kennedy is complex, quiet, and a deep thinker just like me. She tells me often, to never let him go, and that she loves having him around. My son also tells me how much he likes him. My son is 16, and although he is not at home as much as I would like him to be, I know it makes him happy to see me happy. I wished we had met sooner, but I believe everything happens when it is supposed to happen. I will post a few pictures from our summer adventures.
Wojtek’s Shop in Langley working on the Jeep (He is such a patient, kind, and loving man, I love learning from him)
This is the type of amazing surprises I wake up to most Saturdays
Camping in Chilliwack at Thurston Meadows
Steveston in Richmond (Great day visiting my nephew from Ottawa)
Beautiful spot just outside of Whistler
The summer was busy and we went camping, spent some time at the lake, spent a weekend in Whistler, and continued to get to know each other as each month passed. We spent much of our time sitting in the back yard suntanning, talking, sharing our favorite music, and telling each other stories of our families growing up. His Dad (Bogdan) is a huge music lover and has had a big influence on Wojtek growing up. My step dad was also an influence on me musically, and I grew up listening to everything from classic rock, to blues and classical. I grew up in the 90’s and still can recite most lyrics from that era. If you ever see me driving around town in my white jeep, you will likely hear some classic gangster rap or old school hip hop blaring out my windows. Music is a connection we have in common and I love that even though there is 10 years between us, we both love the same music.
One of our biggest shared passions is car racing. I grew up going to Langley Speedway as a child, and both of my parents had raced when I was younger. I had not watched very much Formula 1 racing, until I met Wojtek. Now Sunday race days, are one of my favorite days of the week. I’m a Mercedes fan, and Wojtek is a Ferrari fanatic. My driver of choice, Lewis Hamilton, just won the World Championship, and you could say that we take racing pretty seriously. If I accomplish one thing in my lifetime, it will be to bring Wojtek to a race at some point. They take place all over the world and I know this would be a dream come true for him.
True Race Fans 2017 (A little healthy competition)
I don’t know where I would be right now without this man in my life. It’s hard for me to fathom, how I ever got through the previous events of my life without him. I guess when you don’t know what you are missing, you don’t truly understand how different life can be. I have never had my needs be such a priority to anyone, and am still learning how to accept help, without feeling like I’m a burden. This is how it should be I know. I never witnessed true love growing up in my family, and didn’t know that this would ever exist for me, and for us.
Fall arrived, and without a doubt, this is my favorite time of year. It always has been. I love the rain, wind, kids going back to school lol, and every other event and holiday that comes with this time of year. I’m a kid at heart and love going to haunted houses, corn mazes, and seeing the kids in their costumes. We had planned to go to a party on Halloween, but ended up staying home and watching scary movies. This too often is a habit of mine. Making plans and cancelling is a painful side effect of my anxiety. It’s something I’m working on, but will always choose a night in, if I have a choice. I feel like I have to remind you of this, because often when we post on social media, most times we only see the good parts. I assure you that although my life has improved significantly, I still struggle. I know many of us do and I hope that talking about it will be helpful to others. Life is a continual process of learning from experiences and evolving as we go. In Wojtek, I have found someone I can tell everything to and never have to pretend to be someone I am not. I can tell him anything and everything. He listens without judgement and the key word here is “listens”. He thanks me always for listening to his stories about work and life. When we first met, it was hard for him to tell me what was going on in his mind. Like me, he never wanted me to worry or feel like he was burdening me. You learn after time, that talking about what your experiencing, brings you closer together, and helps you truly learn how to be there for the person you love. I have said it before and will say it again, “Communication is Key”. To be yourself and to be accepted and loved, is everything.
My birthday is November 2nd. I don’t think in all of my life, that any person I have dated prior to Wojtek, has ever planned anything for my birthday. This last birthday was by far the most amazing birthday I have ever had, in my 43 years. Wojtek makes little lists in his phone of things that I mention in passing, or might have said that I like. (How smart is that?). He started planning my birthday at the beginning of October and the thought alone would have been enough. Everything he planned was a surprise, and I had such an amazing time. The night before my birthday, Wojtek had a really stressful and busy week. Although I know he was extremely tired, he insisted on coming and staying the night. He wanted to be there on the morning of my birthday in person, and wouldn’t have it any other way. He showed up that night with beautiful flowers, candles, and my Mercedes racing ball cap that I had mentioned I wanted one race day. This hat can’t be found at the mall. He had to order it directly from the Mercedes dealership and make sure it arrived in time for my birthday. I was so excited. We went to bed that night and he woke up extra early at about 4:30am and decorated the living room and kitchen with balloons, banners, and with so much love. He had spent the evening at home the night before, blowing up all of the balloons at his place and hid them in his trunk. It was absolutely amazing. Have I mentioned how much I love this man?
Wojtek took the Friday off of work and asked me to do the same. I knew we were going to Vancouver, but did not know what he had planned. We left the house at about 11am and our first stop in Vancouver was a drive through Stanley Park and lunch at Prospect Point. The food was amazing and the waitress let me take home the little plant that was on the table. I named him “Stanley”.
This was just the beginning of what was such an unforgettable night. Once we finished lunch we headed to Yaletown, where Wojtek had rented us a quaint condo for the night. We unpacked and relaxed for a while, and waited for our dinner reservations at 5:30pm. At about 5:15pm, we walked just a few steps away to a restaurant called the Blue Water Café. If you have the chance to go here, I’m telling you it was the best seafood I have ever had in my life. The ambiance was amazing and the service was outstanding. We started with bread that had a delicious hummus and then devoured the biggest, yummiest, and freshest prawns. We also had the Kobe meatballs which were just as tasty as the prawns. Wojtek had Sablefish for his main dish, and I had the pan seared scallops. OMG. The whole experience was amazing. I was so full from dinner that I couldn’t order dessert. The restaurant had slipped a little “Happy Birthday” message under my bread plate and brought me some little chocolates at the end of our dinner. I would have thought this was the end of our evening and that we would just go back to our apartment for the night. The night had just begun ❤️
After dinner we headed back to the room, and called a cab to head out to our next adventure. Wojtek had bought us unbelievable seats to go see Cirque de Soleil. I had mentioned one time on a trip back from Vancouver that I would love to go see the show Kurios, and of course he made note of this like he does with most things I mention. The show was brilliant and we had the best view in the house. Our aisle was extra wide and the performers came right in front of us several times, which made it that much more exciting. After the show we did what any classy people in the city would do, and went directly to 7-11 for nighttime munchies. The night was one of the best of my life. Thank you Wojtek for always making me feel so special.
I think I will leave the story here, and will upload the next update after Christmas. Love is something that should be celebrated and these stories and our experiences are something that I cherish. Thank you to those of you that are following along and sharing in our journey.